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Long Distance Relationships

Discussion in 'Everything/Nothing' started by Bowling-Pete, Apr 30, 2004.

  1. Bowling-Pete

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    In a week my girlfriend will be on a plane, to go back home, to Bahrain for the summer (4 months). The last chance I get to see her is tomorrow after my Philosophy exam. I had originally thought it would be next Tuesday, but she has a late exam that day.

    She's my first serious girlfriend. We like each other very much. I hesitate to use the word love, because in my experience, and the experiences of those close to me, love leads to heartbreak. (Yeah, I know it is just a word.)

    For those of you who don't know, cause I didn't, Bahrain is in the Middle-East, just east of Saudi Aribia. It is an island nation about the size of Washington DC. In other words, it is a long fucking way away.

    I am pretty confident that our relationship will last. I'm looking forward to September, but I am dreading the months leading up to it.

    Has anyone else been in such a situation, or had to deal with a long distance relationship? Share your thoughts.




    (whoa... a serious thread by me......)
     
  2. Riley

    Riley The Freakin Rican
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    never had the experience of a long distance realtionship. But through email ect... I am sure you can still keep it going, maybe even make it stronger. Just keep yourself busy, see it as time out for yourself. Sept. will be here before you know it.



    Good advice coming from someone who sucks at realtionships. :cool:
     
  3. Bergs

    Bergs Elitist

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    If you are both dedicated to each other and have plenty of trust you guys will be fine. It might be hard at first but it gets easier. I am still with my HS gf and she goes to school in Boston and I go to school in PA. Granted its not as far as you guys will be and we get to see each other on vacations but its still far. Best advice I can give is talk as often as possible. If she has cable/DSL ask her to leave her IM signed on and you do the same and leave messages to each other if you are both busy. Send emails, letters, and talk on the phone as well. Communication is key. I am fucking suave. :D
     
  4. Riley

    Riley The Freakin Rican
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    you have a girlfriend? :eek: but what about our baby? damn it bergs.
     
  5. catgarvin

    catgarvin *****.ebaumsworld.com

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    You know they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. It's probably true, 'cause I know familiarity breeds contempt. :)
     
  6. Whiteboy24

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    :)

    Here's my story:
    My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 years... I live in South Sacramento, and she lives in Gilroy, CA (Gilroy is about the same distance as San Jose). We've been able to keep a strong relationship... Although the distance is painful, We have a strong enough bind to stay together... I only see her about once every three months as well... G2G... I have to do something... I will continue my post later...
     
  7. SectorNine

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    OK so I have done the long distance thing twice. The first time I stayed at college and she went home for the summer. When she got back to school we got together, but it just wasn't the same. Ended up breaking up after a couple of weeks. So pretty much a waste of a summer...well maybe not a total waste, but that's a whole different story. ;)

    The second time was after I graduated from college. My girlfriend at the time left home to Vegas and I went back to California. We did the phone thing for three months. I went to visit once in the summer. After the three months, I decided to move to Vegas and see how it pans out. Long story short, our 2-year wedding anniversary is next Tuesday.

    Long distances can work. It all depends on how strong your feelings are for the other person. The first time, my feelings weren't that strong. This makes it easier to get..."side tracked". The second time I full on loved the girl. Made it easier to stay true. I guess it all just comes down to what you really want out of your relationship. If she isn't "the one", don't let a possibly great opportunity pass you by.
    *my two cents*

    WHITEBOY24: How long have you lived in Sac. I grew up in Loomis.
     
  8. SIK_WIT_IT

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    u want my advice for real? start looking for a girl that lives within 2000 miles of u. long distance rel. r a waste of time, they r one step above imaginary g/f's. i guarentee she'll come back and things will have changed n u will have wasted 4 months.
     
  9. Sam Da Butcher

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    Are you dreading being alone? Are you afraid she might cheat or you might be weak? You might get away from her and miss her like crazy or you might meet someone new that you like better. Same goes for your girl. Sounds like you take your education seriously but are you too young to be this serious about a serious relationship?

    This is a good opportunity to test her and to test yourself. You're a good kid Pete, no matter how it turns out I think it will just make you a better person. Don't sweat it.
     
  10. spicey

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    Couldn't have said it better myself Sam. You're a wise old fart :p



    Good luck Pete, but don't keep your hopes up to high. Long distance relationships are tough and you are too young to trouble yourself to much for one. If anything, I'm sure you two will remain friends for a long time.
     
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